Mindfulness of Others - A DBT Skill

“Mindfulness of Others” is essentially about practicing perspective-taking. It’s a crucial part of the “Mindfulness of Others DBT Skill” and can help us nurture lasting relationships. This skill follows the same three steps used in DBT mindfulness “what” skills—Observe, Describe, and Participate.

First, Observe. Be fully present and attentive to the people around you. Set aside distractions, like multitasking or planning what you’ll say next. Instead, focus on truly listening to understand the other person. Let go of the tendency to judge or the need to always be right. Shift your focus away from yourself and onto those you’re engaging with.

Next, Describe. Replace judgments with neutral, descriptive language. Avoid jumping to conclusions about what others might think or feel without checking the facts. Remember, none of us can truly know another person’s thoughts or motivations. Be mindful of giving others the benefit of the doubt and don’t question their motives without a strong reason to do so.

Finally, Participate. Fully engage in interactions. Let go of trying to control the flow of the conversation or situation. Instead, immerse yourself in group activities or discussions, allowing yourself to go with the flow and connect with those around you.

Mastering the “Mindfulness of Others DBT Skill” strengthens your relationships, deepens your connections, and enhances your emotional intelligence. By applying these steps, you can foster better understanding and improve your interactions with others!